After having this conversation I told this story to my mother's caregivers. When I read Jolene Brackey's book "Creating Moments of Joy" she has a short article titled "White on White". Until I read the story I had not realized that wearing white and standing next to a white wall had a similar effect. Your hands and face would appear to be floating.
In the article she asked what color are bathrooms (white)? Toilets (white)? I had my aha moment. My mother had not been able to see the toilet or bathtub. No wonder she fought about getting into the tub, or sitting down on the bath chair.
If I had a magic wand I would give every family a copy of Jolene's book. It is filled with common sense. It is filled with ways to share moments of joy with family members that have Alzheimer's and other forms of dementia. Simply it is a great read. It is filled with short stories that take only a few minutes to read. It is filled with practical wisdom.
I met Jolene at a conference hosted by the Montana Alzheimer's Organization. I only wish I had met her earlier. I think her materials would have helped me create more moments of joy with my Mom.
Jolene has developed material to help families communicate better with their family members. Her website www.enhancedmoments.com talks about her material and how to find ways to have great conversations when you visit. Jolene has generously shared information and some handouts www.enhancedmoments.com/mm/services.html (look for handouts).
I loved listening to Jolene tell her stories. She loved creating moments of joy with the people she cared for. She loved even more, in teaching us how to create moments of joy for ourselves. I am grateful for the moments of joy in my life.